Our beautiful idealist nature, as an INFP (or INFJ) soul, can actually be the source of our deepest suffering. Hello dear soul, and welcome to the Lightbearer's Library.

As sensitive souls, we experience pain (loss, rejection, exhaustion) deeply. However, the intense emotional burden we feel comes not from the pain itself, but from our internal resistance to reality—the clash with our ideals. We idealists often fight against “what is,” which only serves to multiply our discomfort.

This journal entry breaks down the simple equation Pain x Resistance = Suffering, showing you exactly where your control lies. We can't control the painful events, but we can learn the practice of acceptance to reduce the resistance variable.

When we bravely choose not to let the negative thoughts spiral downwards, we start to master our inner world. And in this way we can hopefully spiral upwards towards more peace, happiness, and health! 

✨ If, like me, you felt like this equation was a mini revelation, let me know in the comments! Where in your own life can you reduce your resistance to a painful situation,thus reducing your suffering?

Next ▶️ If you find yourself frequently caught in a spiral of negative thoughts, this journal entry will help your nervous system with a gentle method for meltdown recovery: Meltdown recovery for sensitive souls (INFP/HSP) (https://youtu.be/73OU_43NG0I)

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 The simple equation to reduce suffering to zero
0:40 Pain: inevitable in this life
1:30 Highly Sensitive People (HSP) and pain
2:08 Resistance: the variable we control
3:31 How the INFP/INFJ idealist mind creates intense resistance
4:18 Pain times zero resistance equals zero suffering
5:23 The practice of awareness and gentle acceptance
7:33 Acceptance is not approval of the pain, it's choosing not to spiral
8:17 The brave choice to stop the downward spiral
9:20 Diminishing our suffering is the incentive to practice

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🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

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