Hello, dear soul, and welcome to the Lightbearer's Library! In today’s journal entry I’m tackling one of the most uncomfortable emotions for an INFP: Anger.

As an INFP, I often find anger difficult to express, especially when it arises from deep sadness over being mistreated or misunderstood by a loved one. The pain of maintaining external harmony is shattering my internal harmony, so this video is my real-time process for figuring out how to negotiate those.

The challenge is learning how to honor our truth and set firm boundaries without creating drama or sacrificing our core values of love, kindness, and forgiveness. It’s about accepting that anger is a true feeling that needs a loving expression.

I share the one practical action I’m taking: rejecting the story of why it's "okay" to be treated poorly and sending a short, three-line email to put up a gentle, non-negotiable boundary. This action is not about changing the other person (in my case, my ESTJ mother); it's entirely about protecting my own inner peace.

I also explore the deep feeling that some of this intense anger may not be mine—that as a sensitive soul I may be called to transmute some of the collective energetic anger in the world.

If you’re struggling to find a path through your own anger, especially if you are an INFP or INFJ navigating family dynamics and boundary setting, know that you are not alone.

If this video resonated with you, please give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel. Thank you for being here on this journey with me.

Next ▶️
Check out [Why the Golden Rule doesn’t work] https://youtu.be/ZDQd-hFtUkM for a look at why treating others the way they want to be treated—not the way you want to be treated—is the foundation of healthy relationships and self-aware boundaries, which is essential for managing your anger kindly.

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library: INFP Anger Management
0:35 The unexpressed anger that causes internal suffering
1:21 The INFP vs. ESTJ family boundary conflict
2:45 Why I can’t "make up a story" for forgiveness anymore
4:00 The problem with trying to maintain external harmony
5:05 Kind Anger: How to express anger with love and kindness
6:10 The 3-line email: Setting a simple, non-dramatic boundary
7:00 Practical Tip: Catharsis through an unsent email
8:45 How to harmonize love and anger
9:40 A spiritual thought: Why your anger is not all your own
11:00 You are not alone on this journey

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🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1